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Taking it under advisement
the first rule of dealing-with-the-particular-thing-
the-thing-that's-secret-to-myself-and-that-
I-do-not-like-to-talk-about-
club, is we talk about it
that is the advice
at any rate,
that one sex blogger gives, documenting
how she's lived her life
radically reimagined
and somewhat exposed
these last five years
and been happier for it
who talks
about the dirty underside of her mind
the very not-talking being
what enabled
the "dirty" judgement to persist
and possibly it works for her
in some degree
because exhibitionism
which I so don't have
so I take the limited supply
of advice
as well intentioned but with a big
pinch of salt
and the advice I give is:
avoid magical thinking
--such as believing that the aforementioned
talking-about-the-unspeakable
can fix everything--
because it always seems like
if we could only address WXYZ
then everything would be lovely
in the garden
but this
is a failure
of imagination
and the post-WXYZ world is still a world
(or garden)
still messy and dirty and filled
with human beings, complex,
and not all well intentioned
and there was no way
that merely sorting out the WXYZ
was going to fix that
no, my advice is:
walk on the grass
whether the sign says otherwise or no
our pleasures are limited
and none of us know
when we'll go
bare feet on damp grass
your father running the sprinkler
but that was then and now you are the father
with no sprinkler
because ecology
and in this newer world in theory
sometimes you want but think you should not have
a Bakewell tart for example
of the more industrial kind
with solid sugar icing to at least
a quarter of an inch
but you can
because,
ultimately,
apart for those we choose ourselves
there are no rules.
